How Mindfulness Helps you Walk the Three Roads to Awakening

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I previously wrote about how the path of wholeness, awakening or sincerity is actually about integrating three different roads:

  • The high road, consisting of joy, bliss, love and living our deepest aspirations.
  • The low road, consisting of becoming intimate with our shadows/struggles, and working through whatever is preventing us from living on the high road.
  • The middle road, consisting of our everyday life, a place where we come down to earth, find our sense of humor and embrace what is.

Today, we’ll talk about the role that mindfulness plays in walking these three roads.


high roadThe High Road

In a very real way, a moment of mindfulness is a moment of total engagement and intimacy with life.  It’s a moment where our entire reality is vivid and lucid—colors are sharper, sounds are fuller, body sensations are more textured, our emotions are juicier and our love is more fluid.  Continue reading

What Makes Mindfulness Meditation Unique

meditator buddhaThe Basic Framework of Different Meditation Approaches

In the practice of transcendental meditation (TM), a meditator repeats a mantra over and over, usually for a period for of 15-30 minutes.  This mantra repetition tends to “override” the habit of thinking.  In turn, it leads to a sense of calmness, peace and inner stillness.

In the practice of loving-kindness meditation (Metta), a meditator might repeat well-wishing phrases or consciously reflect on people or things they love the most.  This practice tends to “override” whatever difficult emotions we are experiencing.  In turn, it leads to feelings of love, kindness and warmth.

Often when people think of meditation, they think of these types of practices—doing some kind of mental judo in order to produce a certain effect, like a quiet or empty mind, or feelings of love and warmth.

While those meditations can be very powerful, the aim of mindfulness is a little different.  Instead of trying to make the mind a certain way, like peaceful or loving, mindfulness simply teaches us to be aware of all things without reactivity.

To put it another way, sometimes the best mindfulness practice can actually happen when the mind is very active and chaotic, or filled with intense emotions.  This is because instead of trying to get rid of difficult experiences, mindfulness teaches us to find freedom even while they are happening.

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The Three Roads On The Path Of Sincerity: Are You Walking Them?

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One of the main ways I’ve come to think about the path of sincerity, awakening or wholeness is that it actually consists of three separate roads.  A truly integrated and enlivened spiritual life needs to include all three of these.

Here’s a very brief summary of the three roads:

  • The high road consists of joy, passion, love and living our deepest aspirations.
  • The low road consists of becoming intimate with our shadows/struggles, and working through whatever is preventing us from living on the high road.
  • The middle road consists of our everyday life, a place where we come down to earth, find our sense of humor and embrace what is.

The entirety of my work as a teacher and coach is to help people walk and integrate these three roads.  Here’s a more detailed description of what they look like and why they’re important:
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Why Living Truthfully Matters

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There’s an ancient story where a layperson approached the Buddha and asked him about the greatest joys of living in the world.

When monks or serious meditators asked him this question, he would reply by talking about the fruits of meditation; mostly, inner freedom.

However, this was an everyday person, and so the Buddha told him the top four types of joy for a person who lives in the world.

The first three came down to outer freedom: having wealth, using wealth and being debtless.  These allow us to do what we want, when we want—whether that’s eating a mango, watching a movie or writing poems in a redwood grove. Continue reading

The Three Levels of Truth and How to Live Them

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This blog revolves around the idea of sincerity, which is really nothing more than living truthfully.  However, even though sincerity is quite simple, truth is a little more complicated.

Let’s say your friend has you travel an hour to meet him somewhere.  Once you arrive, he texts you to say that he got caught up in some things, and won’t be able to make it.  He texts you that AFTER you arrived!!!

You feel irritable and angry, and are tempted to lash out.  However, you also have a deep rooted intention to be kind in the world.

What to do?  What way of responding would be most truthful for you?

By the end of this post, you will have a better sense of the most sincere response.

For starters, there are basically three levels of truth: psychological, emotional and spiritual.  The secret to a life of sincerity is becoming intimate with all three, recognizing their realities and their limitations.

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How to Make Sense of All the Different Styles of Meditation

meditation prayingWhen someone is beginning to explore meditation, it’s often somewhat confusing which style to actually do.  There are seemingly endless options, ranging from the world’s major spiritual traditions to more secular approaches to individual teachers with their own “innovative” style.

For example, there’s Zen buddhism, Vipassana, Yogic meditation, Taoist meditation, Christian meditation, secular mindfulness groups, heart-centered meditation, Advaita Vedanta and countless fusions or other integrative approaches.

Of course, all these approaches to meditation are getting at something similar, and yet they’re also quite distinct.  In today’s post, I hope to give some clarity on the basic framework underlying all meditative practices.

May this benefit you and your journey into yourself!

bowing question markThe Two Basic Questions Of Any Meditation Practice

1) What do I actually do?

2) What is the purpose of doing that?   (aka why?)

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A Rough Guide to Why & Where to Go on Meditation Retreat

Why Go on a Meditation Retreat?

Before I went on my first retreat, I had practiced yoga and meditation on and off for a couple years.  That period was sort of like the courting phase of a new relationship.  I was trying it out—practicing once or twice a week, reading some books, engaging with others who did the practices, and seeing what happened.

Needless to say, I became convinced that there was something really powerful for me in this practice.  I decided to “go for it,” and signed up for a donation-based 10 day Vipassana Meditation retreat that I had heard about through word of mouth.


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From Years of Travel to Intensive Meditation: What I learned about Freedom


I had just left an eight-week silent meditation retreat in Lumbini, Nepal and was sitting patiently in a local shop with a Nepali man named Jupiter.  He was halfway chatting with me, halfway filling out my bus ticket to Varanasi, India.  Midway through, he paused and looked at me with a curious glance before asking, “are you always like this?”

I smiled, a little confused, thinking maybe he was referring to the large beard I had grown in two months of no shaving; I said, “do you mean my beard?”

“No, I mean how peaceful you are.”

“Oh….  Well, I’m generally a pretty tranquil guy, but I just got out of a meditation retreat, so probably more than usual.”

By the end of the night, I was on a horse carriage riding through the streets of Varanasi, a twinge of novelty in my eyes while roaring with laugher over the chaos of Indian nights—the horns and lights and street dogs and glitter-like colors in every which direction.  Continue reading

The Top Six Benefits I’ve Gotten from 10,000+ Hours of Meditation Practice

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Over the years, I’ve heard literally thousands of different questions from meditators about their practice.  Interestingly, all those questions really condense down to three: what, how and why.

When someone asks “why meditate?” they are often asking, “what are the benefits of meditation?”

“What will I get out of spending all that time developing present moment awareness?”

This is an absolutely essential inquiry!

When we know some of the common benefits to look out for, we’re more apt to notice them when they start happening, and, accordingly, we naturally boost our motivation & commitment levels.

Even though it could be argued that the core benefit of mindfulness meditation is freedom more, suffering less, I today wish to give a more personal, less abstract list.

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A Real Life Example of How “Sincerity Work” Unfolds

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As a helper, all my collective works are aimed at guiding people into a life of sincerity.  Really, this means helping people dive into deeper and deeper levels of truth, and then helping them to integrate those findings into their real life. 

Why bother with this whole process?

It’s about a way of being.  It’s about feeling a sense of inner freedom, harmony and resonance with every step along the journey.  It’s about feeling good about how you show up in the world.  It’s about not just “thinking” about a better world, but actually “contributing” to it, even if it’s just through the kind of presence you bring to your day-to-day interactions.  As I sometimes say, it all comes down to “freedom more, suffering less.”

Today I’m going to give an example of how this process works.  Continue reading